I've been fascinated with the concept of speed dating ever since it was introduced. The idea is that spending 5 or so minutes with someone to determine if they're worth another look and then repeating it again and again with other candidates in the same session, is more efficient than investing whole dates on a person. In our fast food culture, this idea may seem to have merit on the surface, but I can think of a book full of reasons why both someone that looks bad in 5 minutes can be a more than suitable potential partner, but they just had a bad day, or were nervous, or any number of other situations that might shine someone in less than their ideal light.Is speed dating really fair to the participants involved? I mean, think about the person you're with now. Were you able to determine their suitability as a potential life partner in the first 300 seconds? I venture that you did not.
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Having done a lot of regular networking lately, I know that we make our first impression in the first 30 seconds, let alone five minutes. We do it unconsciously, and it's really hard to change.
So, like it or not, all our relationships are based on the first 300 seconds.
So are you saying that the relationships we decide to cultivate that go contrary to our initial impressions of people are our ego's way of rebelling against our subconscious?
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